Friday, February 6, 2009

My friend part 2

Alright, it's been awhile since I've posted and I truly have been meaning to, but things have just been so difficult to write about for me. In my last post I was talking about the situation with my friend in the hospital. Well I said I would give the "full" story at a later time so here ya go. On Friday Jan 9th my best guy friends older brother was in a motorcycle accident. He had gone to cash his paycheck that night and when he was about a mile from his house he crashed his bike. No one truly knows what caused it since he was alone, there was talk of a car pulling out from a road right before the low water crossing, also maybe swerved to miss a deer, who knows. He was unfortunately not wearing his helmet at the time, and was found by a friend. I got a call at 2:30 am on Sat telling me there was a family emergency and to call mom. When I called I found out he was at the hospital in a coma and they weren't sure what was going to happen from there. So I drove the 60 miles to see him and be with the family. He truly didn't look that bad, I mean he was on the ventilator and all but other than that he had a few stitches in his forehead that you could see, and he had to have a shunt type thing in his head to reduce the swelling, fluid in his brain but really other than that he looked OK no broken anything really. I spent some time with him and the family and then late that night drove home. I called everyday to see if there was any change and on that Thursday after the accident I got a call saying that he was going to be taken off the ventilator soon, I assumed from the call that it was going to be that day. There was a family meeting about things that day and one set for the next day at 10 am, as to his mother was waiting for a sitter for the grand babies and her mother has also just been taken to the hospital that morning. So forward to Friday morning, went up there and visited at the morning visitation and then went into the meeting, Dr's said he basically would need lifetime nursing home care and would never know anything as in family friends etc and would need a bunch of surgeries just to be able to live in the home. Now knowing this man for as long as I have I know that he wouldn't want to be in that condition, and the family knew that as well, so they made the decision to let him pass on his own terms and be at peace. After they took him off the machines he was able to survive for almost an hour on his own. That was one of the hardest things I had ever had to go through, watching the people I love say goodbye to him. The one other thing that was so bad was that his brother was not able to be there to say his goodbyes to his brother. And unfortunately was also unable to be at the funeral the following Sat. Gene passed at 1:30 pm Friday the 16th of January. His funeral was very nice and the processional to the grave site was lead by his friends and family on their motorcycles. The whole processional to the grave site was a 16 mile drive or so and there were so many people that it probably took up 3 miles of road. After all of the services were finished everyone went back to his moms house and spent time together etc. And of all the things on that day the hospital in town called and told mom that she needed to get up there and they figured that her mother wouldn't make it till they got there, I mean my God how much in one day can she take, really! I am assuming that since I have not been called and informed of her passing that she is recovering, thank god.

I'm sorry about the downer post but I really needed to just sort of clear my head and talk about it a bit. I have been past the sit of the accident and what I don't understand is why someone has not cleaned the scene a bit better. I mean the family has to drive by the site every time going out or coming home. I don't know if I would be able to see everything that is still there like that, I mean it's disturbing that there is still blood on the road where he was!!!! I was upset driving by there imagine how his wife and kids feel!!!
OK I think that's enough for now, hopefully I will post a little more often and be happier :)


1 comment:

Drum Riley Calhoun said...

Mandie, I am so sorry to hear this story about your friend. I'm thinking about you. Big HUG!